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This book was such an amazing eye-opener for me. At first, I was a little off-put that the lessons are framed through the scope of religion (Christianity) as I am not a member of this faith, but the advice and the selected quotes are so good, and the selected examples so relatable that even a secular humanist like me was able to gain immense benefits. One of the most audacious, and powerful observations in this book is that for compliant people like myself, feeling guilt and experiencing pushback is a GOOD thing, as it means I'm starting to set limits and take care of my own needs (and not that I'm a rotten, selfish person as other's and my own judgmental conscious might try to convince me). The other important concept in this book is the concept that "hurting" someone is different from "harming" them, and that by being compliant and codependent I am harming others as much as myself, all for the sake of avoiding causing short-term "hurt." These concepts may seem obvious, or objectionable on their face, but for someone who constantly feels powerless, this book is a lifesaver.